The irony of how things end tends to be excruciating for us. As humans, we keep waiting for more and more once and over again and it seems we never learn. But don’t we, really?
Since the moment we are born, we cannot stop learning, which is amazing until the day we crave for the next stimulus as the only way we can allow ourselves to actually feel something, to be there, PRESENT in the moment we are living in. For some reason only then, only on that moment, we experience a different reality, and we think there is hope or an escape of our lives.
We continuously avoid the feeling of emptiness, along with the remaining hole inside us by having any socially “acceptable” experience, even living lives we didn’t want or “didn’t mean” to happen. But the reality is: we allowed them to happen to us, and at some point we even wished them. So, we should stop feeling as the damn victims of someone else’s story or damn victims of someone else’s destiny or simply of our life’s circumstances. Because NO, we are not victims, we are creators of our own lives, indeed creators of our destiny.
Experiences are here to teach us something, regardless if they seem good or bad in the moment they come. And in order to stop the madness in our lives, we need to BE PRESENT while they happen to us – truly understanding the root of them, so we can live them, feel them, accept them and then let them go, setting up the necessary freedom of our past and our so called “mistakes”. Otherwise, we’ll spend EVERY moment of our lives thinking “what if…” or worst, the regret in its highest expression with the common phrase: “I should have… ”. Obviously, this state of mind makes us feel miserable instead of happy; while we cannot stop wondering how it could have been instead of moving on to the next experience, which will enrich our lives. You know, helping us living life to the fullest.
So, if you want to live for real, if you want to feel for real, then stop the madness! Stop blaming yourself or better yet: stop blaming others for whatever happened to you. Take responsibility for your actions. Take responsibility for your life. Stop your brain to continue the torture, to continue with its regular primitive wiring of remembering only the bad stuff, which somehow made you feel like a victim of the circumstances.
And overall, start training yourself to understand, feel and see this:
Life is beautiful, and as you’re alive, you’re beautiful.